If you are struggling with BPD, you should journal at least once a day. When you journal, write down what you are feeling at that exact moment. Are you feeling happy, sad, scared, or maybe a combination of feelings?
Then try to distinguish why you are feeling this way. Is it because someone said something to you at work? Or maybe your partner did something? Whatever the reason may be, try to get to the root cause of it. If you cannot establish a cause, then you are experiencing hyper-sensitive emotional numbness.
So if this is the case, connect with your numbness. Try to picture it in your head as a person. Ask it what it needs to feel whole again.
Next, you must acknowledge all of your emotions, good or bad. Specifically, you want to acknowledge your sadness. Doing so will be a lot easier once you let go of any emotional numbness. You will also be more compassionate about your sadness. Therefore, you’ll be better equipped to work through it with care and time.
The goal is to understand your sadness. So get close to it, acknowledge it, ask it what it needs. Remember that sadness and other emotions are not your enemies. They are only responses from your external environment and past experiences.
These steps will help you get a better understanding of all of the emotional stages that you may go through.