D'Amore's Family Program

Orange County Mental Health Treatment Center

Healthy Support System

Because the family needs support too. Mental Health Disorders affect every aspect of your health and wellbeing. That’s why D’Amore Mental Health’s approach to treatment is holistic and personalized, providing care for the mind, body and spirit.  Our specialized mental health treatment programs are designed to address specific recovery risks and challenges you may face.  Explore our addiction rehab specialties, developed by experts to ensure the most effective care possible.

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Codependency In Addiction And Mental Health

Codependency is a relationship where one person has extreme physical or emotional needs, and the codependent person feels pressure to cater to those needs. This often leads the codependent person to neglect themselves and others around them. Codependency often results in codependent adopting the problems of the afflicted person and as a result, allowing them to maintain their destructive behaviors.

Signs Of A Codependent Relationship:

Dependency On Partner

A codependent person can develop low self-esteem and depend on their partner’s approval to derive their self-worth.

Worry How Others Feel

They value other people’s feelings over their own. The codependent will be a “people pleaser” and go out of their way to stay in their partner’s good graces. If they don’t, they will feel intense guilt.

Avoiding Their Problems

A codependent will often take on the role of the caretaker. They may only feel fulfilled if they are taking care of the needs of others.

Lacking Boundaries

They will often lack boundaries. Codependent people may offer unwanted advice, internalize other people’s feelings, or try to manipulate the behavior of others.

Obsessed With Interactions With Others

Codependents are often preoccupied with relationships. They may feel like they are defined by relationships, and become obsessive towards their interactions with others.

Enabling Behavior

Being a part of a family means helping each other through hard times. But when addiction and mental illness corrupt this natural instinct, the best intentions can contribute to harmful behavior. Enabling means doing for others what they cannot do for themselves. The distinction between helping an addict or a person with a mental health disorder and enabling them is very subtle. Enabling differs from helping because it allows the afflicted person to be irresponsible. Enabling behavior often protects people from experiencing the consequences of their bad behavior.

Are You An Enabler? Have You Ever:

Protected the person from the consequences of their behavior

Kept secrets for the person in order to save them from repercussions

Made excuses for the person to their family, friends, employer, teacher or the authorities.

Bailed the person out of trouble with financial support

Blamed other people for the person’s bad behaviors

Blamed other issues for the person’s problems

Ignored the person’s behavior in order to avoid trouble

Gave the person money that they didn’t deserve or work for

Tried to control aspects of the person’s life (friends, activities, job)

Gave the person an ultimatum but didn’t follow through with the consequences

Family Counseling

Family Counseling has yielded positive outcomes in adults and adolescents. It is used to treat addiction issues and other co-occurring problems. It has been helpful in treating conduct disorders, depression, anxiety, and family conflict. Family Counselors encourage families to apply the techniques that they learned in therapy sessions to improve their family systems. Patients are taught to develop behavioral goals for preventing substance abuse and other unhealthy behaviors. During each counseling session, these goals are reviewed and rewards are provided when they are accomplished. Patients and their families participate in treatment planning and choose the specific therapeutic methodology for their needs.

Benefits Of Family Counseling:

Learn to work through the chaos of the past

Build healthy boundaries

Learn to rebuild trusting relationships

Develop better communication skills

Learn to detach with love

Family Support Groups

Parents or family members of a person with an addiction or mental illness sometimes struggle to adjust to the influx of emotions and stress that arise during the treatment process. For many family members, trying to support a loved one leads to feelings of frustration and helplessness. During this difficult time, it is important to identify sources of reliable support. Family support groups are a great place to meet other people who are experiencing similar challenges. Sometimes the best support comes from people who have struggled with and overcome the same issues that these family members are facing.  


Al-Anon is a worldwide fellowship that provides a program of recovery for the families and friends of people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol. They help codependent people overcome their issues and learn to support their loved ones.

Parents Of Addicted Loved Ones

Parents of Addicted Loved Ones (PAL) is a Christian-run non-profit based on one founding phrase: “People helping people through the woods.” PAL meetings are usually held weekly and provide support for parents who have children that are addicted to drugs or alcohol.

Support Communityfor Mental Illness

Nami Family Support Groups

PThe National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) provides support groups for family members of anyone who has experienced the symptoms of a mental health condition. Membership is free, and the weekly group is designed for adult family members.

Relapse Prevention

A relapse occurs when a person who has achieved a measure of sobriety slips up and uses drugs or alcohol again. Relapses, while unfortunate, are considered a normal part of the recovery process. A relapse can be a single drink or a dangerous downward spiral towards death. The difference between these two extremes is how honest and willing the addict is. Oftentimes the guilt and shame of losing a sobriety date sends an addict on that downward spiral. Rather than treating these instances as an end of a road,  relapses should be treated as a misstep on the road to recovery. A relapse indicates that addiction treatment should be begun again or adjusted. Relapse prevention techniques can help a person to decrease the occurrence and severity of relapses.

Ways To Avoid A Relapse:

Get enough sleep

Eat a healthy diet

Exercise regularly

Manage stress with Yoga or Meditation

Attend all therapy and counseling sessions

Join a support group and attend meetings regularly

Take prescribed medications as directed

Make sure co-occurring disorders are managed

Avoid people, places, or things tied to previous drug use

Surround yourself with positive and supportive people

Take up a creative endeavor, like painting, sculpting, or writing

Try not to expect too much from others

Keep the mind occupied

Ask for help when needed